A Lesson Of Love: From A Man To A Woman

A Lesson Of Love: From A Man To A Woman

Written by: Justin Bladl

 8/8/2023

As a 38 year old single man I sometimes wonder if there will come a time in my life that I may meet the woman I can't live without. But to start a relationship these days you gotta be Dr. Phil. And ladies hear it from a man's point of view. Fewer men get married these days because they feel they will have more weight to carry. We already have enough weight to carry alone. We carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and what we don't want is someone adding to it. What we need is someone that reassures that what we are doing is the right thing, someone that keeps us on track from doing the wrong thing. What we seek is our reason and purpose for being who we are.

There are few Queens among us and most Kings seek their Queen. We don't want a damsel in distress. We don't want a princess to impress. We want a Queen that can pass the test. Men these days are either desperate or on the fence. I believe there is a Queen out in the world that doesn't need me but will one day want me. As a man I can speak for the majority when I say that what we seek is a woman that can handle her own. A woman that will be alright when we aren't around because we know she handled herself single, this way we can better trust her in a relationship. We want to know she's safe. We want to know that we are safe with her. Men don't open up because once he does he's seen as weak. Let me clear the air for everyone right now. It takes true strength for a man to open up to anyone especially his lover. To let his vulnerability show is not a weakness. It's his power...

It's like this. When a man see's a woman focusing on herself and not looking for a savior she is more likely to get some attention. But if she's talking to every guy just to find one that will pick her up and carry her because she's pretty then men are less likely to have anything to do with her.  We want to know our woman is safe when we aren't around. We want to be able to trust her not to fool around. We want the one that makes us work for it because she's worth it. 

Ladies if you want a man's attention it's simple. Give him the attention he deserves. Show interest in what he does. He doesn't want to fight with you or fight for you forever. Make them fight for you at the beginning then show him his reward. Be his Queen. A King does not worry about his Queen. He knows she has everything she needs. But belittle him or make him feel unwanted and watch him fade away.

A man's most precious moments are usually behind a smile she wears for him. I work for smiles. But to find that one that smiles for me is still but a dream. A dream of a life that is lived out in love. I held myself back for a long time because I wanted a woman that accepted me with nothing and loved me for who I am not what I have or how I look. Why did I do this you ask? Simple once I fixed my flaws and had the money I'd never know if she loved me or the dream.

If she loved me and we built each other up and grew together I would've known it was meant to be. But that doesn't happen these days. Women want what they don't have but they don't want to work for it. They want a man to give it to them. In my eyes that's the wrong thought on how to get a man's attention. Become self-reliable. This goes for both sides. There's only a couple things we actually need to live. The rest is what we want. To need someone gives power over you. Never let anyone have power over you.

Ladies if you want a man make him want you. Find one that doesn't need you because there are plenty of grown ass boys running around. All we want is respect, loyalty, truth, peace. Take his work or hobbies and show some interest in what he does. Compliment him. If you pick him up when he needs it I promise he'll carry you wherever life takes you. Relationships take work. You won't get a fairy tale ending. They don't exist. But if you work together you'll live your dream.